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Why is my mother against me renewing my vows and taking a honeymoon I never had this summer? I got married in the summer of 2010. I met my husband 4 years after he had immigrated to NY (overstaying his visa). I am a US citizen and planned to file for his green card after we had married. So we dated almost a year, got married, and shortly about 2 months after began the process to get his green card (which has been pending for 8 months now and is really behind schedule). My husband is great. However, I didn't have the wedding I wanted to. I got married in a local park with a reception at a nearby restaurant- and about 30 guests. Ideally, I wouldve wanted a small destination wedding in a tropical locale but my husband can't travel without "his papers." To make matters worse, I had a horrible case of hives on my wedding day and ended up in an emergency room after the reception. Now, my wedding photos came out nice and airburshed the hives. However, I reflect back on this and feel horrible and like an "ugly bride." It brings me close to tears. Also, I never got to have a honeymoon because of my husband's immigration status. We planned to have it this summer 2011 and thought we wouldve had his green card by now. However, INS keeps saying the interview date is coming closer. We are on the last part of this and overdue according to Immigration processing times. We are now planning a plan B of going to Hawaii (since he can travel within the US right now) instead of the Caribbean island we had booked earlier provided the interview and papers don't come on time- since everything has slowed down. I also wanted to renew my vows in Hawaii to kind of make up for what went wrong last year. My mother acts as if I am being unreasonable for me and my husband to plan this vacation. I don't know why I'm not supposed to be happy but she really hurt my feelings. Would you be doing what I do??? Please give your opinion. P.S. It's also not about money. My husband and I both work, are independent, and pay our own bills. I am 29 years old and he is 26. Also, we want to start TTC soon and need to have the honeymoon before any children come along. I don't want to delay TTC because I am pushing 30 and we want about 3 children.

Another One of My Dreams...? Again, I do not want to know what they mean... Just what you Think. Your OPINION... I'm going to keep posting my dreams and Nightmares. I've got tons and more will come. I'm writing down the ones that stickout most. Add me if you want to hear more... They will all be titled the same, except the first one. Some details won't make sense without other dreams, sorry. It's sort of like a story and very long.. again SORRY This was a dream I was not included in. I only watched. It was like a movie, but I felt what she felt… I pieced it all together when I woke up. A family was on a trip. A sea vacation. They were on some sort of water vehicle. There was the dad, which looked like a man who was in one of the Beethoven movies. Terrible actor… Two daughters, one who resembled Alice from Twilight and one with dirty blonde hair named Rachel. Two sons, one with dark hair and another with sandy, honey colored hair that reached his mid-face. He was from my dream when a bunch of my friends and I got stranded on a wooden boat and landed at an island. His eyes were the exact color of his hair… He was gorgeous. All the kids are teenagers. Where is mom? Well dad is single. Mother passed away. Suddenly, I don’t know what happened, an accident maybe, but she woke up on a beach, the girl like Alice. She started exploring and found that this was a well civilized place. The people were different though, somehow. They seemed so unreal and dazed, and they were totally unaware of the other people in the world. They knew more existed, but they had never met or interacted with them. She finally meets two kind guys that take her to their apartment. They are not gay, just two roommates and friends. They talk about each other’s lives and worlds and how she ended up there. They are fascinated with her. She stays with them for a few days. Then a few weeks. She knows they want her to be a permanent resident at their home. But this is not where she belongs, and she must leave. They know she’s becoming wary, so they keep and eye on her. Meanwhile, she manages to build some sort of weapon. It’s like a gun that shoots out a thick, dark pink ray/laser. Sorry it sounds so corny and cheesy. Keep in mind, this is the future and teenagers are much more intelligent than before… or now. However you see it. A while back, when they were first speaking, the boys explained to her that there was a sort of was going on. I swear, if you were in the middle of it, it looked like a scene from Halo 3 and War of the Worlds in the midst of a tropical island. It’s like two species have gone against each other. Creepy creatures from Halo and big robotic thing from the movie. She goes out and tries killing them with her creation. At first she succeeds and confuses the beasts, but then it fails and she realizes they are too strong for it. So she returns and designs a whole new and improved weapon. It’s larger, heavier, stronger, and ten times as powerful. It’s a good thing she’s strong. The day before she uses it, the guys confront her. They tell her that they know what she is doing and she has to stop. She’s crazy and she will never defeat them. They don’t want to get hurt and killed. They care about her. She doesn’t say anything, only gives them a look of comprehension. That night, in bed, she plans what she will do. She decides to kill whatever she may and then escape. How she will leave, she doesn’t know. But she will do it someway, somehow. She just feels that she will know what to do and trusts this intuition. That morning, she woke up later than usual. By that time the guys were gone. She gathered her things, which was only her weaponry, and left. She came to the same place as before and began her killing spree. She began well, but then the [war of the worlds monsters] grew and became enraged and stronger. She realized it was time to leave. For good. A few yards away, there was a cliff. She dropped her gun and ran and jumped. It felt so real. I felt like I was really falling through the air… and then, hit water. It felt so good. She swam and swam away. Finally she grew weak. Just as she was about to give into the sore aching of her muscles, she saw something. It was another beach. She swam harder, against the pain. Finally, she dragged herself on shore and read the worn sign “Moreno Beach”. There was a sort of tropical restaurant just behind it, and out came her father. Then her brothers and Rachel. She collapsed in their arms. They couldn’t believe it. We thought we’d lost you her dad sad, tears rolling down his face. Her brothers crushed her in embrace and Rachel hugged her and cried into her shoulder. Suddenly a woman came out. Turns out dad had fallen in love with her. She didn’t like the woman. Too happy… too fake. But she was finally with her family and that’s all she cared about.

What is it like to live in Hawaii? To make a long story short, I've applied for a job with TSA (Transportation Security Administration) in Lanai City airport in Hawaii. At first that was more like a joke decision, which I came up with while applying to other law enforcement jobs (that's the field that I'm planning to go into and what I've gone to college for). But then I began wondering. What is it like to actually live in Hawaii? Should I be looking forward to actually getting a job there? They add locality pay as well, which makes the starting minimum salary of $32,000+. I'm originally from Eastern Europe and have lived in the U.S. for almost 9 years. Most of that time in lived in Illinois, and only a year ago I moved to Georgia. So, I'm just wondering - what is it like? Does it feel that you're living on a island? If so, why and how? Are some kinds of produce more expensive than in the continental U.S., or are vehicles more expensive? What about housing? And what about all the sea storms and tsunamis? Does that happen a lot? Are there any shortages of certain kinds of produce or other goods in Hawaii? Obviously, we're going to get vaccinated for certain tropical illnesses and stuff... To me, the State of Hawaii, if you cannot actually see the ocean, is just like any continental state, with all the latests technologies and goods. Am I correct in that assumption or not? And if not, why? Not to offend anybody, but I'm looking for more responses from people who actually live or have lived in Hawaii for a while. If you went there on vacation, blowing a couple hundred bucks each day - that's fine, but I'm more interested in what it's like to live there. To reside there... for several years... should I look forward to making Hawaii my home, even for couple of years? Me and my fiance (she's also from Western Europe) are actually considering the option of moving there for a while, and then after a few years I will try and transfer back to the Continental U.S. within TSA. Or, we may decide to stay... we're totally clueless at that point, and I haven't even gotten the offer and I'm not even sure that I will. At that point it's more like a question of interest. But your answers may help us a lot, so, please, be serious in responding, and I appreciate you taking time to reply... Thank you.

Trying to Plan a Tropical Getaway Vacation, HOW do I do THIS? Bahamas, Virgin Islands, WHERE and HOW? Greetings, Its been a H*LL of a few years..skooL is intense!! The wife and I are just trying to do life main! She graduated and about to become a doctor, so no more living poor.. But anyways she starts her residency or whatever in two weeks, and I want to take her away to celebrate.. We both have our passports, but WE"VE never even been outta the USA in our lives.. I want to do something tropical, like island fun and swimming and all that. I've never done ANYTHING Like this before.. so I have NO idea how to do this.. Can anyone help or offer suggestions? I would like to take her away for an island vacation somewhere, leaving like Sunday night and returning thursday morning... total of about 3-4 days!! Can anyone clue me on what and how to do this? How do I setup a quick 3 day vacation to the virgin islands or bahams or anyting tropical? THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!! oNe