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Clingy demanding behaviour??

My wife is very demanding and needy. We've been married since December and I thought then she would be the perfect wife. She found out she was pregnant a month before our wedding and I was happy as I wanted another child with my ex wife. Since then she has become demading. Shortly after the wedding she began to fall asleep early in the evening and was always being sick. I used to tell her to go to bed, or go and stay with her mum so me and my son (whos 19) could play games, Just because she felt tired and sick there was no need to spoil my life. My son was due to go to his mums to live, but I dont want him to go. My son is my best friend. which upset my wife -p but shes my wife not my friend. She wanted us to move to a 3bed house but I wouldnt as my son is fed up with my wife and wants time alone with me, also my wife would be on the tennancy and could throw me out if she wanted and I'm not willing to lose my son over her. ] I arranged for her to go to her old house and i will visit her and the baby (though i need to be available to my son and don;t want him to feel left out). When my wife insisted she wanted to live with me i said i may look for a 3bed house - but now she says its too late and I should have done it when I was offered one and after what my son siad about her she doenst want to live with him anymore. I told her I was going on holiday with some mates when the baby is a month old - she got angry. When I realised how controlling she would be stopping me from doing what i want, I decided to book a holiday to the canary islands. She will be heavily pregnant at the time, but not due for a few weeks. I need to get away and am going alone. She told me she'd leave if I went - yet that means she doesnt want me. Other women put up with their husbands going on holiday alone, why is she so needy?

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Apparently, Aspen feels colon cleansing is the answer to everything... he might be on to something! Okay, my thoughts, unadulterated. I wouldn't be able to stay with somebody who is clinging, needy and demanding.... maybe you should of lived with her for a little while more before you married her, but, coulda-woulda-shoulda... Go on the vacation... I would. It will just be a test to see if she is flexible. If not, and she's a demanding bitch that bad.... then she'll leave you, you'll get over it, and you'll have one less problem in your life... You should keep an eye on your unborn son though.... take care of what's yours.... might be hard now, but you gotta take care of your responsibilities... Oh.... just thought of this.. her b!tchiness might be due to her pregnancy, but you might want to ask that question in the woman's health section...
Honestly, from what you have written, it really doesn't sound like you are A) Ready for marriage or B) Should be married, period. Of course she is needy, tired and sick. She is pregnant. Her hormones are raging. And I believe your thinking here is quite selfish. How dare you request that your pregnant wife leave, so as not "to spoil your life." That is beyond rude and extremely childish. For someone with a 19 year old son, you're old enough to know better and offer a little sensitivity. Also, from the sound of it, this is her first child. And you wonder why she got mad at you for wanting to leave so soon after the baby is born to "go on holiday"? She's going to need your help. Your baby is going to need you too. You say she is your wife, and not your friend? Why would you have married her to begin with? Your spouse should be your best friend. They are the ones that will always be there for you. Through everything. Yes, other women allow their husbands to go places on their own- but you have no business leaving your wife while she is pregnant. Not for such a trivial reason as vacation. From what you have described, I think she's better off without you. I am sorry, but that's the way I feel. With a new baby coming into your life, you need to consider that child and its well being now. Your son is an adult, and needs to be looking to head out on his own. And you need to step up to the plate and be there for this new baby and your wife- if she chooses to remain as such.
this is tough as everyone is different. It sort of sounds like to me that she realizes she isn't the #1 in your life, as you said your son is the most important person. Butttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt... she sounds like a real pain in the ass too so no wonder she's not the #1 fuck it man, love comes and goes u messed up by having a baby with this girl. I say you escape while you can, send money for the baby every month and move on to the next girl
First of all WOW Are you serious?!?!?!?!?! This is not her fault She is pregnant If you have read the books etc.......etc.......then you know moodswings are normal I would get angry too if my husband wanted me to move out with our unborn child I understand that you love your son but he needs to understand that you love her as well and that she'll never replace you but during pregnancy she does become a priority Being sick during pregnancy is normal it only lasts a few months Things should go back to normal after the baby is born You are alowwed to go on a holiday but when she is pregnant she needs suppoert and someone to take care of her You are truly not being a good husband by doing this
WOW. she's pregnant of course she gets sick and fall asleep early! I cant believe you told her there was no need to ruin your life because she can't help it! She's clingy because she needs a mate to go through this with her. Clearly you are spending more time with your son and don;t love her very much. YOU TOLD HER TO MOVE BACK TO HER HOUSE. That says it all. you don't want to be with her how horrible. O WOW YOU ARE GOING ON VACATION WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU THE MOST!!!!!!! WHen he baby is first born she will need help. she needs someone to see her through not some horrible husband who abandons her and doesn't love her OR the baby. I hope she leaves because you just ruined my day with your selfish ignorant cruel ways. I really think you need help because you have the problem NOT HER
Are you kidding me? What kind of sick person are you to ditch your pregnant wife a few weeks before she's due to give birth just to go on holiday with some mates? You do realise that she may give birth early, and you'll be off having a whale of the time and leave her with the hard work? Also, why doesn't your 19-year-old son find somewhere to live on his own? Or go back with his mum? Because seriously; you can be best friends with him without living with him. "I arranged for her to go to her old house and i will visit her and the baby" She's your wife. And if she's having your baby, that should mean you love her. Having a baby is a tough time for a woman, and she should need your support. Not to be shipped off somewhere else and left to deal with it herself. "She's my wife not my friend." Then why did you marry her? Obviously you don't love her. "She told me she'd leave if I went - yet that means she doesn't want me." No. It means she is fed up with you not giving a damn about her. Try seeing it from her perspective: she's being told that basically you care more about your older son than for her. Which is nice to see that you do care for your son, but how would you like it if she had a child from another marriage, and she was telling you that she would rather live with them than with you? If that doesn't bother you, then you two really shouldn't be together. "Shortly after the wedding she began to fall asleep early in the evening and was always being sick." She's pregnant. Of course she's going to be like this. Do you not know anything about pregnancy from previous times? I'm sorry, but you seem to be to be extremely insensitive. Try being a husband and actually giving a crap about your wife's feelings.
From what you've written maybe you weren't mature enough to take on the responsibility of a wife and family. Even though you're clearly not that young! I feel sorry for her and hope she finds a new life with someone who will love her and her baby. When that happens you'll be the one feeling left out. I suggest you keep a copy of what you have written above so you can refer to it in the coming years. I've been married nearly 20 years and have a 7 year old son. My husband has never gone on holiday with his friends (just the odd weekend away) and he certainly would not have considered going on holiday when our son was a month old. Set her free so that she can find a man who is more worthwhile.
damn dude you are lucky your bitch only complains when you tell her that you are going away i tell my Girl im going on a trip and she tackles me and beats the living shit out of me
Just because a guy can contribute a sperm and help make a baby does not mean he's good husband material or a good father. You're wife is pregnant, has gone through morning sickness, is hormonal (to be expected), you've chosen your son over her, you and your son have teamed up against her, and then arranged for her to go to your old house (in effect, a legal separation) and you're taking a vacation one month after the baby is born -- and you're wondering why your wife is angry. Basically, you're saying to her: "This is a union of two people -- me and me, and you get to live here so long as you don't upset the way I like to live." This whole relationship seems to be all about you -- and very little about her. It's as though her being pregnant is a giant "inconvenience" for you and I've seen little evidence in what you've written of your taking any responsibility to step up to the plate and help her during this pregnancy. In essence, you've rejected her and you've rejected the pregnancy, and the coup de grace is leaving to go on vacation -- WITHOUT HER -- one month after the baby is born. I rather hope she DOES leave you: she can do a lot better, and you've already communicated loud and clear to her that you don't want her.