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Why does he want to help her?

My husband told me about this woman he slept with before he met me. He swears he didn't fancy her at all, but she 'seduced' him, apparently no man can resist a woman who strips off while sitting next to him. I know this woman. She broke up my friend and her boyfriend, by being just friends with the bf, then calling him up at night due to some 'crisis' and he would stay the night. What's worse is my friends bf gave my friend hep c; so there's a chance this woman my hubby slept with could also have it. This woman apparently came round all the time & my hubby was too "nice" to tell her to go. her daughter still refers to my hubby as her ex. My stepson even said he thinks my husband did act like a boyfriend to this woman. My hubby stopped his voluntary job after we married for a while (December). My husband and i have some problems; he wants me to move back to my old place and live separately (but still be married), he's going on holiday - alone - to the Canary Islands when I'll be 32 weeks pregnant (even though I told him its over if he goes; he gets upset saying he needs to go but doesn't want to lose me). Now he's back in contact with this woman. She is moving home soon and he's helping her move and laying carpets for her etc. He's also said that when I move home he doesn't see the harm in having her over to play games, chat etc. He swears blind that he doesn't fancy her; but she seduced him a few times before. And she has NEVER come over since he got with me, so it seems weird that she is suddenly in contact with him when things are rocky. On my husband's part he told me I have no right to choose his friends. I agree, but this woman was so nasty to him when he met me, and she recently emailed me saying that she hoped her and hubby could be good friends again; she told my husband that I've been nasty to her, when I tried to show him her emails he refused to look saying why would she lie, and I'm trying to stop him having friends and going on holiday, and having a good life. I'm stuck here pregnant, not wanting to move out, scared of this woman and my hubby going on holiday. He's also said he WON'T help me decorate my place as if I pi$$ him off!

Public Comments

1. Divorce him and refuse to put up with his nonsense.
2. All I can do is laugh. Let's make a long story short shall we?: He wants to live in separate homes. He wants to take a "vacation". He wants to be with a woman he once had sexual relations with (games indeed, chat yeah sure). She has Hepatitis C and you are pregnant. He becomes rude when you ask him for help around the house (but wants to help the diease infested female with her moving). Hon do you really have to ask "Why does he want to help her?" I know you can read and write for you did so in your question so why is it you are having problems reading the writing on the walls in your situation?